There are two things of which I am certain. That I love my wife Fran. That I cannot particpate in war. I experience them as complementary. The tangible love that I feel for my wife enhances the more conceptual abhorrence of war. Love for my wife helps me directly comprehend that war, in destroying such life and love, is totally unjust. I describe my love as unconditional love. I find this to be an amazing and life-changing conviction. It does not mean that I never get angry. Fran and I are blessed to be amazingly well matched, but we are not perfect. But in this instance I believe that perfect love, in the sense of being forgiving, understanding, and having total confidence in one’s love, is achievable. Such love blesses both the giver and the receiver. It is a feeling that is so rare and special, that for me it is experienced as a gift from God. This experience becomes part of the tangible evidence for the love that God has for all human kind, and has the effect that I become a channel for expressing this love to the world through my resistance to war. War destroys love; war is a denial of God.