No, I don’t mean “discipline” during sex. I’m referring to discipline regarding sexual activity, comparable to how we may seek to discipline ourselves in regard to our eating and sleeping behaviors. It may seem strange/incongruous even to consider sexuality in terms of good habits, when we are accustomed to hearing so much about freedom and spontaneity. But particularly for any couple in a long-established relationship, good habits have their value. There is frequently a substantial decline in sexual activity that may mirror a decline in closeness and intimacy. This gets excused by saying “That’s the way life is” and “We’re getting older.” And of course, we do all get older. Fran and I find a value in having a regular schedule, with flexibility as circumstances may generate, that is not too different from the traditional Wednesday/Saturday schedule of some married couples (I will not go into specific details, sensibly). This works well to insure that we do not become like most married couples of our age (60’s), who seem to have totally let sexuality lapse in their relationship and are thereby missing out on an important part of a relationship.